Yup, I set those goals in a Bingo board, and I’m rewarding myself every time I earn a B.I.N.G.O.!

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I saw this bingo goal technique, oh, probably on TikTok in January, and I thought it would be a fun way to tackle the serious subject of personal goal setting.

I apply the SMART goal principles to my goals. The acronym breaks apart into Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. If the goal isn’t SMART, then how will I know when I’ve reached it?

Now, some of my goals are a gimmie bingo win, like paying my property taxes. I have…

Free marketing is never free; it is paid for with time and effort.

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Social media is a fantastic set of platforms, particularly for small businesses, artisans, musicians, makers, and creators. There are the standbys of Facebook, great for longer-form posts, Instagram, the visualization of your business, LinkedIn, connecting with other business professionals in your niche, TikTok, short videos of your product, process, members, engagements, events, Pinterest, visuals and short videos, and more at your disposal.

The question for 2021 is social media dying? Well, as Forbes wrote in January, social media is evolving, suggesting that brands should meet people where…

That’s Me — In Colorado, my happy place. Copyright 2015–2021 C. Deborah O’Dell

My relationships have gotten better since I moved back to America from Singapore.

It could be that the spicy curry rewired my brain. Or that the tropical heat of living so near the equator flushed the disapproval from my pores. But, I think it was all the time I spent at the temples, bringing back the idea of acceptance, that changed how I interact with people.

I accepted my son’s father — as he is not as I want him to be — and the fighting stopped almost instantly. It was magical.

I accepted my (now ex) husband — as…

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Medium is a place to write my thoughts, technical writing tips, poetry, whatever floats my boat, really. I am a paid subscriber; I follow people who I’ve read, whose work I admire, or from whom I can learn something.

  1. I do it for me. Please read my work, comment, interact, for that is why I write. Mostly, I write for myself. I have something to say, a feeling or event, or a story that I want to share. …

What is worse than a D*%k Pic?

A hotel name and room number. No context. Just blatant expectation, hubris, and a complete misread of the situation.

There are some facts about the history between he and I, some might argue justifiable facts for this text. I don’t think one could ever justify a text like this, out of the blue, expecting a hook up. No wind up, no pitch.

  1. We dated, for three years, in our twenties. That was 30 years ago.
  2. We reconnected in 2020, at the beginning of the pandemic. …

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Perfection is overrated. Flaws are interesting, and often difficult, and sometimes toxic.

It is easy to run from flaws in others or leave flawed situations, seeking something that feels better or isn’t as hard to deal with.

If the truth is told, the flaws within us (you me them everybody) are as jarring and offputting as the flaws of others are to us (you me them everybody).


I realize that running from flawed situations to places of sunlight and easy daffodil meadows is the story of my life. I never learned to deal with difficult conversations or uncomfortable ideas…

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Bullying is the worst.

When I was in middle school, I used to walk home with my stand-up bass from orchestra class, in its case to protect it from the elements, with my coat and book bag, trying to keep the instrument undamaged. The school was close to my home, less than a mile walk, but it was a steep uphill in the morning and a steep decline in the evening.

One wintry day, I was walking home with my bass, and a group of kids was on the other side of the street, throwing insults and snowballs at me…

C. Deborah O’Dell

Book Editor, Technical Writer, Essayist, Artist

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